This is not my usual topic but I was very touched by this young woman's letter and thought it should be shared with the world. For all these Western women who do not consider the selfishness of their actions, let them hear these words from one of their own offspring. This girl has no idea of who or what she is; we all have a basic human need to know our ancestors.
She is bemoaning being a product only of the NOW, with no history to tell her who or what her roots are. And there are MILLIONS of such lost children in the world now.
It is one thing to take in unwanted children who need adoption or a home, because the need is there and in the long run it is a great solution for gay couples.
But this, to me, cases like this show nothing more than unthinking blind selfishness on behalf of the mother. She is putting her needs ahead of those of the child she will undoubtedly love and tend not realizing, no wonder how exemplary a parent she is, it will never ever be enough to fill in that basic need of her child to know who he or she really is.
From Norwegian national newspaper "Aftenposten" on May 22, 2009:
Translated into English
I grew up having a sperm cell as a father and I can tell lesbians and the adventurous that it has not been fun at all. One is and remains a person without a history and without an answer when the topic of fathers is mentioned, and that is often!
It is easier to refer to an adoption or a death. But a father without a name! I can promise you that it hurts! It will never be cool. Neither will it ever be "common."
Even a desired and loved child has a need for parents of both sexes. Life itself has convinced me that living with a mother and a father makes one mature for the choices one must make as a young adult, make in love for a person of the opposite sex.
I regard anonymous sperm donation as a psychological experiment I that I would never impose on anyone.